Do you pine for an old love in your life? Do you wake up in the middle of the night wondering what they’re doing, or if they ever got married? Do you wonder if they still think about you? Well, you are not alone. It is very common, and a form of “the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.” Television talk shows and reality TV are full of dramatic scenarios where people never let go of their old flames, to the point where it destroys their current marriage and family.
This is called soul ties. You get involved with someone emotionally and then your relationship with them doesn’t work out, and you break up with them. Even though you’ve broken up and parted company, they’re still attached to you. You want to let go but you don’t know how.
It’s really easy; you just need to talk the Lord about it. Now, I know it’s not that easy to do this, but if you want to be set free spiritually there is no other way. If you are having these thoughts and believe there is nothing wrong with it, you’re mistaken. The Bible tells us that everything is open in the eyes of the Lord. There is nothing we can hide from Him.
For nothing is secret, that shall not be made manifest; neither any thing hid, that shall not be known and come abroad. {Luke 8:17}
Neither is there any creature that is not manifest in his sight: but all things are naked and opened unto the eyes of him with whom we have to do. {Hebrews 4:13}
The Bible tells us that if a man looks at a woman and has lust in his eyes he has already committed adultery. This same principle definitely also applies to a woman. If she lusts after another man that is not her husband she also commits adultery. Just because the woman is not mentioned in this scripture doesn’t mean she’s exempted. If her heart is not right with God then she also sins before the Lord.
But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. {Matthew 5:28}
So even if our lust is hidden from our spouse, our thoughts and our hearts are known before the Lord. We cannot hide anything from God. We are committing adultery. Think about it, if your spouse was aware of your thoughts would you be proud of them? And if you’re not proud of them and want to keep them hidden, then there must be something wrong. We need to confess to the Lord and ask for His help to set us free. Remember our thoughts will affect our hearts, and our hearts prompt us to make decisions in this life whether for our good or for our detriment. The Bible tells us that the heart is deceitful and desperately wicked, who can know it but the Lord? {Jeremiah 17:9} Our thoughts can become action. Before any sin is committed it always starts from our hearts and from our thoughts. So we need to watch our thoughts and our hearts. Proverbs tells us:
Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life. {Proverbs 4:23}
For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he: {Proverbs 23:7}
The only way to be set free from old soul ties and from pining for old loves is to talk to the Lord about them. There is nothing to be afraid of or to be ashamed of before Him, because He knows about them already. But talking about it to Him clears our hearts and soul of any sin and of any guilt. It will heal us. It will set us free because He will help us overcome them.
He wants us to always be honest and open with Him and not hide anything from Him. There is nothing He doesn’t know already. His desire is to see us happy and content, not to pine our lives away for people who do not love us anymore and are not there for us anymore. If it has not worked out and we need to let go, we should let it go and not torment ourselves. He will help us to let go if we really want to.
Daily talking to the Lord about these things will help us think less and less of them and desire them less and less. The Lord loves us very much. He understands us completely and the suffering we’re going through. He’s not going to condemn us for being honest with Him about these things because He already knows how bad we feel about them. If there’s anything, He’s waiting for us to talk to Him about them so He can set us free and comfort us.
I have found again and again that when I take courage and talk to Him about uncomfortable issues in my life and ask for His help, He turns around and blesses me. Truly He is a very understanding God and full of compassion. He is there to help us, not condemn us. His desire is for us to have wonderful relationships in our lives now, especially with our spouse and not keep dreaming about what could have happened with another person. He wants us also to be cleared of any sin and guilt we could be harboring from Him. He doesn’t want us pining for old loves when He can give us a better marriage and better relationships today if we would just let Him. He can turn around and bless us with what we have now and work everything out for our good.
If you want to be free of soul ties and find joy in your life now then I encourage you to please talk to the Lord about it. You must break soul ties and stop pining for old loves if you want to be happy and content today. You have to want it. When you’re ready the Lord is ready too. Talk to the Lord. There is nothing He will not do for us because He loves us so much.
The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly. {John 10:10}
These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world. {John 16:33}
Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid. {John 14:27}
I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me. {Philippines 4:13}
I tell you, Nay: but, except ye repent, ye shall all likewise perish. {Luke 13:3}
Prayer
Heavenly Father, You are our God who is gracious and kind. There is nothing that You will not do for us. Your desire is to set us free all of our unrighteousness. Thank You Jesus that You are for us and not against us. Your thoughts concerning us are good, not evil, to bring us to an expected end.
Father, our sins are ever before You. There is nothing that we can hide from You. Your desire is to set us free and save us from our sins. Please Lord Jesus help us Father, to repent from our desire for old loves. Help us Father to let go of old relationships that do not help us today but rather torments us. Help us Lord Jesus to let go. Help us to confess every desire and every thought to You and not be afraid to open up and be honest with You about them. You are here to help us and save us. Help us then Savior to believe in Your great love for us today and be set free from old soul ties.
I ask all these things Father, in Your most lovely and wonderful name, Jesus. Thank You, Father. Amen.
